Considerations

The body takes on, holds and stores emotions when a person is unable to process them.
For example: A person experiences a life threatening situation like a car accident. During and after impact, the body goes into a state of shock. This is because it is in survival mode and can only address immediate concerns necessary for survival. After the accident, when the shock has worn off, physical pain (like whiplash) or emotional response (fear, phobias etc) may present itself.

I also learned that if we avoid post-processing intense experiences, they accumulate until chronic dysfunctions arise.

Luckily there are many ways to post-process any overwhelming experience. Some great examples are: EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programing), meditation, yoga, etc.

The solution I offer, once integrated, can become a powerful and energetically sustainable tool. This system will process old stories and improve skills to resolve and release them.

The learning process is quick and easy. The practice can be done on your own or assisted by a professional.

The Specific Breath

To apply the practice it is important that you have already integrated the Specific Breath as described in our Foundations chapter.
If you have not read that chapter, please read it first.

Processing Emotions with the Specific Breath

Focusing on the breath

Get comfortable, possibly laying on your back.

The supine position

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Begin practicing the Specific Breath and continue until you feel totally relaxed. If you are not sure that you are totally relaxed, carry on with the Specific Breath for a few more minutes.

This might take from 3 breaths to 5 minutes depending on your experience.

The Specific Feeling

Once the Specific Breath is soft and fluent, focus on the feeling you would like to process.

The best way to tap into the feeling is to focus on what is beyond the words. Meaning, if the feeling is sadness, attempt to target the feeling before we use words to define it.

Humans have a habit of applying words to everything that happens. We forget that we have a much richer set of feelings if we avoid explaining them and allow the feeling behind the story to surface: “How do I feel before thinking that I am sad?”, “What is that feeling when I recall that old accident of mine?”, “What is that feeling when I get stuck in rage in front of the computer? (or in relationship with my partner, or something else?)

This is called the Specific Feeling.

Processing the Specific Feeling

Your Specific Breath is up and steady.

Once you tap clearly into the Specific Feeling it will be easy to see how your breath is changing as all forms of intense feelings alter our breathing patterns.

After you notice the place of contraction or change in the breath, direct the Specific Breath to that spot of contraction or alteration.

As soon as the breath returns to a steady and comfortable pace, tap again into the Specific Feeling and observe if new alterations of breath occur.

Repeat the process of applying the Specific Breath to the breathing pattern changes until they disappear completely and the Specific Breath is no longer adjusted when focusing on this Specific Feeling.

Processing the Cue Completely

Once the first intense feeling has been released you may be finished, but generally the body stores several different responses with every story.

Now that you have targeted and released what was being stored, it is a crucial and effective time to observe any and all feelings that come up in relationship to the feeling that you have released.

For example :

  • my sadness in this moment
  • my anger toward those who triggered that sadness (if any)
  • my feelings regarding what will happen in the future if this happens again
  • etc.

If any of these aspects generate an emotional response it is important to identify the Specific Feeling and then apply the Specific Breath. This pattern can be repeated until your experience becomes completely neutral. Meaning, there is no emotional response to the memory.

Big Stories

Past intense experiences (“my husband/wife left me”, “that big car accident”, “I”ve always been depressed”…) might take many applications of the process, as the body is often wise enough to release only a portion of tension related to a story at a time.

If you begin to feel tired, take a break and restart the process at a time when you can be fully present for yourself.

You will easily notice, this process requires focus which is difficult to maintain when feeling tired.

Processing on the Fly

The more you practice, the more you will become confident at applying the Specific Breath.

Every time you realize there is tension in your breath, apply the Specific Breath. When you wait for an experience or memory to surface, your focus is then required to process it and fatigue can come quickly. Applying the Specific Breath any time tension is present saves time and energy.

Additionally, you might become surprised to notice how many times tension is present during the day!

Mastering the Practice

The more we practice the better it gets. Period.

Minimal Breath

In the beginning we often breathe with very little efficiency. Emotional and/or physical stress/tension can be difficult to address when energy is being lost by the simple act of breathing.

It is important to spend time refining the quality of the breath. Focus on making it long and soft while aiming attention to the precise spot you want to work on.

Increasing Efficiency

Ideally you will be able to process an emotion (Specific Feeling) or a physical pain (Specific Tension) in one single Specific Breath.

Even if it sounds distant, you will see and feel your ability to process Specific Feelings and Specific Tensions with greater accuracy and efficiency. The more you practice the easier it will become.

Standing and Walking

It is recommended that you begin learning this entire process in the supine position.

Gravity can complicate the outcome in erect positions because imperfect vertical alignment of the spine and torso can create mechanical tension. There is also tension inherent in breathing itself. It can become confusing as to which tension to focus on.

While standing or moving it is important to find good body alignment in order to reduce the tension caused by gravity (and thus be able to recognize the signs of breath alteration.)

Once you feel comfortable working in the supine position, begin working with erect positions.

Processing Visual Memories (shortcut)

There a situations where the Specific Breath can be enhanced by using visualization techniques to process an issue quickly.

Processing intense visual memories, either from the past or the future, can be assisted by using a script.

The following script has proven successful with many clients. You can easily apply it on yourself.

Read it attentively before applying. The most important part is to visualize the script so that it feels real inside of you.

Retrieving Images

Close your eyes.

Imagine you have a table in front of you where you can easily/comfortably work.

Literally grab the images from your mind and put them on the table.

Lay all images out that you feel intensely about.

Once you have done this, take a long breath.

Burning the Images

Now create/imagine a fireplace close to the table.

In the fireplace there is wood burning. There is a steady fire blazing.

Take all the images on the table and walk in the direction of the fireplace.

When you are close to the fire, cast all the images into the fire and step back.

Observe.

The flames will soon begin to consume the images and burn them from the margins.

Now, decrease the speed of the action - like in a slow-motion film.

Observe attentively how all the images burn completely and turn into ashes.

Once they are all burned into ashes take a long breath.

Cleaning Up

Now you can probably see the ashes resting at the bottom of the fireplace.

Imagine your fireplace is now open to the outside air.

Take a full inhalation of breath and literally blow those ashes away.

Blow again and again until every single bit of ash is lost in the wind.

Once the blowing process is complete, the intensity of your feelings regarding your recalled events will be significantly lower.

Final Thoughts

Ultimately, if we process intense feelings before they materialize, our lives have a more pleasant flow.

The job of cleaning up memories may feel long and endless, but for every old memory that we erase, we release some energy back into our system that can be used for higher purposes.

Therefore, you may not notice a difference right away, but change is happening with or without your awareness. Your friends may even notice these adaptations first! Be patient, as you get more space in your system, your ability to notice your own personal growth will also increase.

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Below some of the cases where you can use this breathing practice.

Foundations

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Learning One Minute Practice

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